You don’t have to be good

Note to self

You’ve always felt a little uneasy with the question, “How are you?” Not because you don’t have an answer—but because the script expects just one: “Good.”

You’ve learned to answer quickly, politely, without pause. “I’m good” is what you say—even when you’re unsure, worn out, or carrying something you haven’t named yet. It’s easy. It keeps things moving. But it’s not the same as being honest.

What if “How are you?” wasn’t a throwaway line, but a chance to check in—to be human?

You don’t owe anyone your whole story. But you also don’t have to hide what’s true. You’re allowed to be in process. To have days that are weird, heavy, or uncertain—and still be whole.

What matters is staying in touch with what’s real for you, not what makes others comfortable. It might feel awkward sometimes, but that’s okay.

You’ve outgrown the need to pretend. Presence is enough. Let the script go.

Speak from where you are.